So the other day I was watching an interview on Man Repeller. You know, the one where Leandra Medine (above) interviews Diane von Furstenberg? If you haven’t watched it finish reading this first, click like, tell all of your friends about it and then go and watch the interview. Anyhow, during the interview Diane complements Leandra on how she doesn’t wear any makeup, to which Leandra replied something like I think it sends a good message to women.
It was then that I thought to myself: hmm, I can’t remember the last time I intentionally left my house without makeup. Sure there have been days where I’m pressed for time or feeling under the weather, but for the most part putting on makeup is as routine as brushing my teeth in the morning.
As I watched, I began to agree with Diane. It is great that a young woman can abstain from makeup and be confident enough in herself to own it. I kept thinking: Yeah that’s awesome…for her…but it’s nothing I could ever do.
With that I immediately stopped myself in my mental tracks. And so the internal dialogue war:
Me: Why couldn’t I live my life without makeup?
I: Well for starters I’d look like a troll.
Me: Okay well hating what you look like isn’t really a productive thought, you’re not a troll, get over it.
Me: Nope. Forget it. No more makeup for one week. You have to find a way to feel beautiful in your own skin.
I: Okay fine.
So, I did it. The first day it was a little odd, to be honest. Catching glimpses of myself in the bathroom mirror induced a slight internal cringe. I felt ugly and squinty and just flat out awful, but I just kept telling myself girl chill, you’re beautiful just the way you are, believe it!
But, the more I kept at the better I felt and accepting my natural self became easier and easier.
Today is only Friday, aka it’s only day 4 and I can confidently say that I feel great without makeup. No more flinching or worrying when I look in a mirror, just complete acceptance and confidence. And I have to say it feels awesome!!!
Plus there are the practical advantages: it cuts my morning routine time in half AND I can actually rub my eyes when I’m tired or walk into a rain storm without the worry of smudged mascara.
Don’t get me wrong, I’m sure I’ll still wear makeup in the future, like when I go out or on formal occasions. The fact that I no longer need it to feel beautiful is the take away.
I mean, I can’t be the only one who’s been frustrated by the fact that boys are regarded as innately good looking, yet girls are taught to cover their faces with makeup in order to enhance their beauty, feel beautiful and appear more attractive. It’s so nice to let all of that go – to just be, and have that be enough.
I think for most young women, feeling completely comfortable in our own skin is a day to day process, and for me this was one more way I was able to practice truly loving and accepting myself.
PS: watch this British Vogue video that also inspired me to ditch my cosmetic bag!